Instead, you should go ahead and present them with what you have the evidence of, give them a chance to explain it and start talking about what that evidence may mean. You should start with going ahead and confronting a cheater with the tangibles in terms of what you have as opposed to what you suspect, because if you come to your spouse and immediately hit them with, “I think you’re having an affair,” you’re definitely going to have a fight over that. If what you have is emotional distance where your spouse seems to be pulling away from you (like in our case) and you notice some inconsistent behavior, that’s one of those things where you might say, “Honey, on the weekends, you’re close to me, but during the week, you’re far away from me. “Who are these women that are calling you?” “Who are these men that are calling you at work and coming by?” If you’re finding some unusual numbers on their phone, ask them about those unusual numbers. What’s going on with that?” Don’t automatically jump and make the accusation of an affair. You might say, “Honey, you’ve been staying away from the home a lot. In other words, if your spouse has been keeping a lot of late hours, then confront them on that. In those cases, you may need to find a place to get safe before you confront.Īssuming that you feel safe in confronting, in general confront with what you have – and not with what you suspect. If your spouse is the type that in confronting them, they’re likely to become violent towards you or toward the children, then confrontation needs to be handled a whole different way. Be careful about confronting a cheater though. When it’s so blatantly there, you need to confront it. The answer is when your gut tells you to and when the evidence cannot be denied. When should you confront them? When should you lay low? So what about confronting a cheater based on your suspicions of him/her having an affair?
She was questioning whether or not she should confront her husband and the other woman.
She really didn’t have any hard evidence – just a gut feeling. This weekend we received an email from a person who has some serious suspicions about her husband and the possibility that he is having an emotional affair with one of his co-workers. So what about confronting a cheater based on your suspicions of him/her having an affair? When should you confront them? When should you lay low? What about confronting their affair partner?
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